Intimacy problems are of two kinds : first there is an intimacy problem that one has in general with any person. It`s an issue that can be only solved with counseling and then we have intimacy problems in a relationship. The first category involves shy people that can`t get near someone because they are either afraid or had a bad experience in the past. People shouldn`t be afraid to start a relationship of any kind. It`s true that we are sometimes disappointed by someone or hurt but this is life and what doesn`t kill you makes you stronger. Loosing the will to start a new relationship only makes you close yourself into a safe imaginary world. Intimacy problems in a relationship can destroy a perfectly good couple. Men usually have intimacy problems. They don`t like to spend so much time with someone and usually they pass from one girl to another. A man who is not ready to commit, has a problem. After a certain age , if you are not in a serious relationship then there`s something wrong. If you see that all your relationships have a tendency to fail then you should start thinking that maybe the problem is you.



Intimacy problems east side can also be related to the bedroom. In order to enjoy all moments of a relationship,  sexual, emotional, mental, or just physical one must try to  accept intimacy with that person. Trust is an important factor in any relationship. If there is no trust then you can`t share thoughts and intimate things with someone else.  For example, if you can’t trust your partner to be faithful, then you can`t have sex and fully let yourself be happy. Communication is also important, because it can solve some things that can`t be solved in any other way. Some  people have a fear of intimacy. Either they are afraid of feeling something so strong as love because it might end up bad or they are afraid of rejection. There is also the fear of change. We are afraid that our partner will change and the whole relationship will fall apart. This is partly the consequence of a former relationship. If you don`t take a chance you won`t win! Here are some things that show how a person reacts when is unsure : over involvement in another person's life , constant phone calls, visits, e-mails, etc. Requests for attention or acknowledgment   Jealous or controlling behaviors, withdrawal or extreme guardedness.

A great way to get over your fear of intimacy , is to seek counseling. Get help from specialized doctors that can lead you on the right way. Try to control yourself and to really give it all to your partner. Don`t think so much at the consequences and maybe you will actually be happy and comfortable with your partner. Negative thinking is also an influential factor that you have to get rid of. In conclusion enjoy yourself and stop thinking about bad things, live the moment, the past and the future doesn`t matter.